It’s a quiet pantry with the door shut, stuffing marshmallows into your mouth and chugging down a juice box you found on the top shelf. It’s a locked bathroom door when you don’t even need to use it but you can turn the fans on and drown out everything. It’s the bedroom door shutting behind you after you lay your little one down for a nap and you lean against it, taking deep breaths with your eyes shut.

Who can relate?

As moms we will take a break whenever we can get one... and wherever too. We aren’t picky anymore. We’ll take them as they come and how they come because we don’t always know when the next one will happen.

I know I’m not the only one who sneaks into the bathroom for extended periods of time.

I’m looking at you, mama, who was just there for 15 minutes yesterday. No shame, sister. We’ve all been there!

We need a break.

A break from our partners.

A break from our children.

A break from our lives.

And...

There’s an unknown quote that I came across recently that says,

“The best kind of friendships are fierce lady friendships where you aggressively believe in each other, defend each other, and think the other deserves the world.”

It doesn’t seem like that should be a Big Lightbulb Moment that takes years to figure out or master. It seems obvious that you would want friends who believe in you, defend you and think that you deserve the world but do you want ONLY that ALL of the time? Nix the relationships that only believe in you part of the time, only defend you sometimes and think you deserve most but maybe not all of the world?

What I have found is that this need for fierce lady friendships becomes even stronger when you become a mom. I have drastically reduced my “friends” list over the last few years and only want people in my life that want to be here.

Let me repeat that, I only want people in my life that want to be here.

That are...